Getting sober is one thing. Learning how to live sober is another.
I work one-on-one with people in addiction recovery who are ready to look beyond abstinence and get to work on the life underneath it—the relationships, patterns, resentments, fears, responsibilities and questions of purpose that don’t disappear when the substance does.
You don’t need to believe what I believe. You don’t need to recover the way I recovered. My job isn’t to fix you or tell you how to live.
We’ll figure out what recovery looks like for you—and then we’ll practice living it.
You might be. . .
> Newly sober and thinking, How the hell am I supposed to do life without my primary coping mechanism?
> A few years sober and thinking, I’m sober. Why am I still miserable/angry/restless/lonely?
> Coming back after a relapse and realizing abstinence alone wasn’t enough.
> AA-adjacent but resistant—interested in what the Steps actually accomplish but put off by God language, dogma, meetings, or certain aspects of recovery culture.
> In AA and wanting more—they have a sponsor and meetings but want another kind of relationship focused on building their actual life.
Let’s just chat. If these tools can help you the way they help me, I’m happy to share the map.
Hi, I’m Josh
I won’t ask you to follow my path. I’ll help you find yours.
I bring lived experience, training and years of doing my own recovery work to the table. But I don’t believe my way needs to become your way.
I’m not here to fix you, diagnose you or take responsibility for your recovery. I’m here to walk alongside you—to listen, ask good questions, challenge you when it’s useful, and help turn what you’re learning about yourself into the way you actually live.
I believe deeply in the principles behind the 12 Steps: honesty, self-examination, responsibility, repair, connection and service. I also understand that some of the traditional language doesn’t work for everyone. We can find language and practices you can genuinely stand behind without avoiding the work itself.
I believe in the work underneath the Steps more than I care about the language wrapped around them.
Recovery isn’t a life without discomfort. It’s developing the capacity to experience discomfort without abandoning yourself.
The Work
Generally we go through these steps
1. Truth
Recovery starts with honesty—not just about drinking or using, but about the life underneath it.
We’ll look at patterns, relationships, fears, resentments, responsibilities and the stories we tell ourselves. Using conversation, honest inventory and principles from the 12 Steps, we’ll get curious about what’s working, what isn’t, what belongs to you—and what doesn’t.
We can’t change what we’re unwilling to see.
2. Stay
Removing the substance doesn’t remove discomfort.
We’ll practice staying present with anger, fear, shame, loneliness, cravings, resentment and uncertainty without immediately escaping, numbing, fixing, controlling—or abandoning yourself to make the feeling stop.
Sometimes discomfort tells us something needs to change. Sometimes it’s simply asking us not to run.
Learn to stay with yourself when discomfort arrives.
3. Build
Insight only matters if it changes how we live.
We’ll turn what you’re learning into action—relationships, boundaries, daily practices, community, service, creativity, accountability and whatever else supports your recovery.
The question is simple:
What does a life you don’t need to escape from look like?
Then we start building it.
WORK WITH ME
Recovery is personal. There is no one way to do it.
We’ll start from wherever you are, and go from there.
> > > 6 or 12 month 1:1 support
Recovery in Practice
Knowing what supports your recovery is one thing. Living it is another.
The 6- and 12-month containers are about putting your personal recovery plan into practice—with consistent support along the way.
Real life becomes the work. Relationships. Resentments. Boundaries. Cravings. Discomfort. Work. Family. Purpose. Community. The days you’re doing everything right and the days you’re not.
We’ll continue working with Truth. Stay. Build.—getting honest about what’s happening, learning to stay present when things get uncomfortable, and turning what you’re learning into action.
Your recovery plan will change as you do. We’ll pay attention to what’s working, get honest about what isn’t, and adjust along the way.
The goal isn’t to become dependent on a coach. The goal is to build a recovery you increasingly know how to carry yourself.
What’s included
Ongoing Support
In addition to our regular one-on-one sessions, you’ll have:
Text + voice message support
For the moments that happen between sessions—questions, check-ins, accountability, or when something comes up that doesn’t need to wait until our next conversation.
Steady Social Circle
Access to the in-person Steady Social Circle and online community—a place for connection, conversation and recovery with other people doing their own work.
Retreats + gatherings
You’ll receive preferred pricing on retreats and other extended opportunities to step away from everyday life and go deeper into the work.
Find your people
Steady Social Circle
Community Recovery Group in Madison
Looking for commuity and/ or an alternative to traditional recovery meetings?
Join us every Sunday, 7-8pm, at the Wil-Mar Center on Jenifer St.
Come as you are. All are welcome.
